We all know that being pregnant, giving birth and bringing baby home are hard but there are some things that no one really talks about.
As new parents it can be terrifying to leave the hospital and suddenly be left alone with this little tiny human. There’s no instructions and you just have to figure it out.
It feels like they should come with an instruction manual but since they don’t let’s talk about 7 things they don’t tell you about brining your baby home.
1 . You don’t have to have a routine.
Shocker! I know! Some people thrive on routine and some don’t and either way you do it, you’re still a good mom.
I remember hearing and reading other moms say to get that baby on a routine as soon as possible because it would make your life easier. I also know a lot of breastfeeding moms that don’t follow a schedule, they feed on demand.
Guess what? Either way is ok! We never had our daughter on a schedule. She ate when she acted hungry, she slept when she acted tired, and she was awake when she wanted to be. A schedule just didn’t seem important to us so we never implemented one.
However you choose to do it, you’re still a great mom!
2 . Google will become your best friend.
“What does it mean if my baby’s poop is yellow?”
“My baby is coughing, what do I do?”
I found myself googling the weirdest things in the middle of the night after bringing baby home. I wish I could go back and see what all I looked up in those first few weeks and months.
I also found myself googling all kinds of baby products trying to figure out things to help my daughter with whatever she was dealing with.
You will question every little thing your baby does, it’s just the worrying mom in us all. You will end up using Google more than you ever have and that’s ok!
3 . You’re going to be exhausted yet you still won’t be able to sleep.
Guys! I remember being so tired after I had Braelynn but I couldn’t sleep. I would hear phantom cries or just be annoyed that as soon as I fell asleep I knew she was going to wake up.
Motherhood is weird like that but it gets better, I promise.
I would also wake up to pump in the middle of the night and then be wide awake again. My body eventually got used to sleeping smaller chunks of time and falling asleep faster but it wasn’t that way at first.
Just remember, you won’t always be this exhausted and you’ll look back on these days and miss it (trust me).
4 . People will tell say, “You think this is bad? Just wait!
I despise this so much! In every season of motherhood there is good and there is bad. People tend to only point out the bad when talking to younger mothers and it’s just wrong.
You have to learn to just brush them off and see the good in everything that comes.
Also this saying annoys me because they are trying to say that your feelings of frustration for the stage you are in now aren’t valid and they are.
But I won’t rant anymore about that, just take what people say with a grain of salt.
5 . You’re not alone.
Don’t let those pretty instagram pictures fool you, everyone struggles at first.
I know as a mom it’s easy to feel alone and like no one understands what we are going through. That’s not true. A lot of people understand but it’s just not talked about.
If you need help with something whether it be emotionally, physically, or just help with baby, ask! No one is going to think you are a bad mom or incompetent, just ask for help.
6 . Trust your gut, you know your baby best.
Ever heard people say that moms just know things? A mother’s intuition is powerful and we know our children best.
If you feel something is wrong, it probably is and you should look into that.
If you feel something would work better for your baby, it probably would, you should try it.
Trust your mom gut and don’t let anyone tell you you shouldn’t. Even if you turn out to be wrong, it never hurts to try something and I’d rather be safe than sorry.
7 . Everything will be ok!
Regardless of how it may feel those first couple of weeks, everything will be ok.
Your life will get back to a new normal and you won’t always feel like this. Your baby will grow and thrive and you’ll have a happy little family.
I know it’s hard but the best things in life are, just keep chugging along. It will be ok, I promise!
If you enjoyed this be sure to check out 6 Things You Should Never Say To A New Mom.
If you are a mother, what would be one thing you wish they would tell you before bringing baby home?